Just a thought..!!

To get evolve from present situations is nature of human being unlike other species on planet earth. So passing through situations, some people develop their conscience to higher level than average people. Everyone use this learning and knowledge in all upcoming life events.  Sometimes it helps in creating smooth path; otherwise it creates ambiguity and restlessness for many.

That has puzzled me a lot that “is this extra knowledge or understanding really worth when it creates such ambiguities?” – Here “extra” is used to showcase something which is more than an average. Through my observation lens, I have seen many people taking very firm decisions without holding such “extra” thing. The situations sometimes don’t bother at all to them even though they hardly able to perceive those situations fully. The level of confidence which they possessed without even detail understanding of situations has amazed me often. They don’t worry at all that they are left behind in something or lacking at something. They enjoy every moment of their life without any hesitation.

Opening your conscience or level of understanding is highly dependent on life’s situations which you face and your acceptance/denial towards learning from such situations. It is not any human beings fault in this. Sometime you may think you are lucky when you capture actual reality out of it, but I also feel those who don’t evolve are not at all unlucky.   

Sometimes I envy these people because the way they live a peaceful life without running after solving any conundrum or definite purpose in life and unintentionally keeping their own selves on lack of knowledge. (Even there are very much high chances that many others are envy of me as well. J J J)

The take away for me that sometimes "ignorance is bliss"..!!

Snoring of My Roommate

Does anyone think that how he/she can generate or make sound while he/she is sleeping? Isn't it very interesting to know and sometime very irritating to handle? Yes, specially when your roomate is snoring while you are sleeping.

The most important part is that person who is snoring, not even aware about his snoring activity. Very unlikely that snoring is not even disturbing his sleep. He/she will be in a very peaceful sleep. When you inform them next day, they are in a shock and not even ready to accept their noisy and non-human activity. For such cases, our very much realtime handy and helping tool - mobile - captured the video/sound of the person who was snoring and we showed it to him. Caught you..!!! :) :)

Jokes apart, but It really make me curious that what does make us to snore while we are sleeping and I end finding below details and stats from my favourite search engine.

"what causes snoring is simple. While asleep, the tissues of the throat and nose vibrate because of the air flowing through them. The volume of the snoring sound can therefore be largely dictated by the turbulence of the air flowing through the throat and nose. The more turbulent the airflow, the louder is the snoring and vice-versa; the lesser the turbulence, the more likely that the sound would be more tolerable for a bedmate or roommate."

"Statistics on snoring are often contradictory, but at least 30% of adults are snoring. 60% of men and 40% of women aged 60 to 65 years are snoring. this suggests an increased susceptibility to snoring as age increases."

And unfortunately, my roommate is a part of this snoring community. :)

Thanks to medical science that there are many such solutions like nasal sprays, nasal strips or nose clips are available in the market for snoring treatment which helps you to reduce snoring. So, my roommate do not have to worry much about, as he is getting married in few months.

This post of my blog is actually dedicated to him. Because of his snoring ,I couldn't sleep many nights and end up reading many good books (after giving him so much galis). Today, as he is leaving our room, I will wish him all the best for his future endeavors on his last day and wish to myself a very happy and peaceful sleep now onwards.

Ethics of a Roadside Key-Maker

Some of my observation and incidents help me to fetch some of the best things out our society.

Few days back, I have lost my cupboard keys. Unfortunately, I did not have duplicate key for that cupboard. So, I went to the Key maker’s shop which is at the end of my street. Hundreds of keys and locks were hanging in his small shop’s front door and the guy was engrossed in his special art of making keys. He has noticed me that I was standing in front of his shop. I asked “Can you help me in making of my Cupboard key? I don’t have duplicate key for that.”

Wiping the sweat of his forehead on his shoulder, he showed affirmation for help. Then, he put on his shirt on his sweat t-shirt which he was wearing, took all necessary equipment in a small cloth bag, put on his thin slippers and asked me “Where do you stay, sir?”
I told him, “nearby, just five minutes’ walk.”

We came to our home and I showed him the locked Cupboard. He took out some blank key from (Blank key – without any cuts or notches). He put that blank key in the cupboard lock and started to understand the lock’s movement by putting his ears very close to cupboard lock. After that he took out the key and started making cuts and notches (bitting) on the blade of a key. After doing some cuts or notches, again he tried to open lock and try to understand the next movement of lock. Again he took out the key and started making cuts and notches on the key. This procedure continued for almost half an hour, until he opened the cupboard with that new key.

Seeing this procedure and his skills, I was surprised and really happy too. I thanked him for all his efforts and paid him the amount that we negotiated at his shop.

Later, when he was leaving, one question struck to my mind. If he can open cupboard in such a short notice, he can open any damn lock in considerable timeframe whenever he wants. With the curious face, I asked that guy, “You have such a great skill, is that happened any time that you have to use your skill for the wrong purpose?”

The guy answered it very well. He said that when my father taught me this skill, he told “if you use this skill for the right purpose, someday you may have to sleep with empty stomach, but when you use it for wrong purpose, there is a definite chance that you don’t get sleep even if your stomach is full”

“What level of ethics and honesty this guy has” I whispered internally...!!

Why only Money for Donation..

Why do they only ask Money as Donation? Or why do beggars always beg for Money? Money is just a medium of exchanging your needy things. There are many other things which are possibly to be donated and there are hundreds out there in a need of that. Like books, knowledge, your time and the last things is usage of your mind or your ideas (which put you in position to donate other things). Why can't we donate our senses (of course, only if it is alive) for few days to someone? At least he or she can improve using those senses and will make his or her life better. That is the actual things which we need to pass on. Awareness and alive senses are the need for everyone.

There is a reception on the other side is equally matters. If you want to pass on something but the reception is not tuned, it is just a waste of effort. That leads to me to conclude that we need to provide the basic things to the person first and then pass on awareness. Without food, shelter and clothes, you can't even teach simple things to someone. Those untuned person will never even listen to you and it looks them as if it is very complicated. That is great saying that “A hungry stomach cannot hear”. For Food, shelter and clothes, you need money. Because of that only passing money to this needy people as donation is required. After the person is at sufficient stable stage, they start accepting knowledge and accept those awareness fundas. Later, if the person is lucky enough, he explores and try to understand the spirituality concepts to make life even much better.

It's not that everyone loves you, because you are special,
Its just that you are special, because everyone loves you...!!!

A thought..!!

When your supervisor or boss is totally depend on you, it's time to look for some other position or opportunity because there is nothing more to learn from him.

sometime,some Innovation are not so Complete..

Incident had begun like this…..
The person was new to city. He had called his relative and asked couple of landmarks and the information about the road he should take to reach their home. The city has minimal public transport service, so person has no choice and took Auto rickshaw.

The person asked that Auto-Richshaw guy: Do you know this address?
Auto-rickshaw guy: Yes sir I know very well…
(The person trusted him and took the auto. In hardly 15 minutes, the Auto guy took him to the right place as per the address.)

Auto-rickshaw guy: Sir, 165 Rs?
The person: (Surprisingly…)... Travelling for 15 minutes, you are charging 165 Rs. Show me your meter?

Auto-rickshaw guy: Ohhh sir!!! My meter is not showing correct reading..!!! (The meter is showing 0:65 and he was claming 1:65. That means, if 1:65 then, we have travelled 16 Km so far.)

The person: Then, how will I trust you? Do you have meter card? Show me…!!!
Auto-rickshaw guy: No Sir, I don’t have meter card. (In which for every reading, there is translation given. Reading <-> Rs)

The person: I will not pay you money until you show me the card.
Auto-rickshaw guy: Ohhh!! Okie give me 155 Rs.

The person: I will not pay. You fist show me the card.
Auto-rickshaw guy: Okie sir... Give me 135 Rs.

The person: No No..!! You ask other Auto-Driver and get the card. I will not pay without seeing the meter card.
Auto-rickshaw guy: Okie sir... Pay at least 115 Rs.

The person: (Interesting ... From 165 to 115) I will call the police if you are not showing the card. Auto-rickshaw guy: Okie sir... Pay at least 95 Rs.

The person: (The person has a side thought that this guy is telling truth, may be he is not having a meter card. But let’s try one more time). Wait…!! Let me call that other Auto-Rickshaw driver. He must be having a meter card.

Auto-rickshaw guy: Okie sir, Wait Sir…!!! I have a card.
(He has produced the card from his own pocket only. It is showing just 55 Rs for the reading)
The Person: Has given 60 Rs and ask 5 Rs back.

Auto-rickshaw guy: Sir... I don’t have a change.
The Person: Wait...!! I will give you the change. I will not give you single extra penny as you lied so much.

The person reached to his relative’s house. He has inquired about Auto Fair for the distance he was travelled. The person was right and he has given the right amount to the Auto Wala. Auto driver was actually lying about the meter that it was not showing correct reading.

Sometime, we have also encounter the situation about bargaining for Auto-fair. Isn’t it a ridiculous that before getting into Auto-rickshaw, you have to bargain for the auto-fair? How is it possible for the person who is new in the city? He is just keeping trust on the Auto-rickshaw driver and taken his service. Every Auto-rickshaw has been provided with meter, which shows actual distance covered by them and we have to pay the fair according. Why do we require to do bargain for this? This creates the space for cheating. Either they cheat you or you will cheat them. Because of this, sometimes people ended up in un-safe environment.

On the other side, you can’t force honesty to everyone. That is impossible. We don’t have control to other’s mind. Sowhat we can do is to make machine which will do this task. Sothat, both (service provider and service user) will trust on machine.

But, such incidents shows that they overcome all these machine inventions and make you feel that "sometime, some Innovation are not so Complete".

observation on sharing..!!!

Just few days back, two friends were talking with each other. Though they are very close but few things they haven't shared with each other.

Suddenly one day, one friend has shared one problem with other. He was explaining that to his friend in detail. As a co-incidence other friend was also facing the same problem. So, He had also shared the problem to him after the first one has completed. After that they both were giving support to each other to fight with that problem.

But the main observation part is here that, if the other person is facing the same problem as what we are facing then out of no reason we are happy to share our part of problem as well. I don't know why? It may be true that because we understand the pain how much we feel due to the problem and expect that the opposite person will also understand that. Somehow, we human creates good bonding when we are passing through the similar kind of pain. Though sharing helps us many times, but we always think before we share. But in this case, I feel that we don't think much - of course that's the one is my observation. It may be true or false...!!!

નસીબ

કોઇયે સાચું કહ્યું છે,

"આખી જીંદગી આંકડા તમે માંડો અને છેલ્લે સરવાળો કોઈ બીજું જ કરી જાય
એનું નામ - નસીબ"

Today, my friend got stitches ….!!

Today is very dark day for me, because one of my close friends got a big injury. The cut is very big, so the stitches must require. He is crying and shouting because of the pain due to stitches.

/// Flash back ////

Few years back, I met this friend first time in some store. Very interactive and talkative. I was very happy to meet a friend like him. He is very caring, always be in lighter mood to give a feeling of comfort. In almost all outdoor activities he was with me. He was with me on trekking adventure, camping and jungle adventure and saved me from many obstacles. He helped me to keep the grip while walking on smooth surface and wouldn’t allow me to fall down in any of the trekking. However, I was always missing him in formal occasions because he doesn’t like such occasion. Also, I haven’t forced him to join such kind of occasion.

Few days back we both have registered for the Mumbai marathon and he promised me that we will definitely complete the marathon. But everything is not in our hand. During the last week’s trekking, he got a big injury and I have brought him here for the stitches. He is a wonderful friend and I am offering a prayer to GOD about his better health and quick relief. Who wants to loose such a friend…!!!

///come back ///

Today, my mate is sitting in the laps and shouting due to pain. Now, He is no more in a condition to either walk or run, though after lots of attempt he was saved by cobbler.

While returning home, I am extremely upset about my sport shoe’s health and his life.

wishful words !!!...when turned into reality...

In my previous post here, I have talked about the unintentional curse. Similarly, we also give wishful words during our conversation. Ofcourse, it is happy moment for us that our wishes are helpful to others to fulfill their dreams. We always try to do that. But little surprising on the other side that our wishful words converted into reality.

A small scenario of my wishful words for others. me and my friend colleague were having conversation about his life’s crucial thing (here some crucial things means which can not possible with efforts, hard work. They need lots blessing and wishes). He is very negative, pessimistic and having uninterested kind of attitude. During the conversation, I have rested him with lots of argument and just give a few words about a must possibility of that thing. When his life changing wish came true just few days back, he was very happy and was telling that your words converted in reality.

On the other side I was wondering about that my words were converted into reality. Being in this science world, we definitely think that it was a co-incidence. But slightly spark will surely happen in back of your mind that might be some person’s wishful words can convert our wish into reality. No wonder that we must be looking for such kind of person and their wishful words.

A humorous part about this incident is that when I told to my friend that my words are not converting my wish into reality. He suggested I should try against mirror and give some wishful words about myself… Not a bad idea !!!.......he he he :) :)

All of a sudden...got my Question's Answer !!!

In a dark room, with the confused mind, sitting on the balcony, looking at the sunset, many thoughts were running here and there at the light speed or even more than that.

To whom I should ask the question and where I will get the correct answer. Also, I was looking for the motivation/inspiration and many more mixed feelings in lower layer of my mind.

Rapidly, the darkness increasing in the surrondings and also in my mind's thoughts. Suddenly, the light turned on in our neighbour’s flat. That broke my concentration and the flow of my thoughts.

I saw one poster on the wall of my neighbour’s room with the one nice Quote on it. After reading that quote, somehow I got all my answer.

What a wonderful coincident? I was thinking that how come my neighbour knows about my questions, also on top of that how come they know about the answer. :) :) :)

But actually speaking, nature/environment have all the answers. We just need to ask them and some or other way(direct or indirectly) they will show you the right path.

PS: Let me be specific here. We can see only poster of our neighbour’s room. Nothing else. :P

RoadSide Ring walah....

Few days back, on the Footpath, I encountered one Ringwala on my way towards office, who was selling fortune rings, He was claiming that all his rings can change fortune and help in increasing your wealth.

Actually speaking, I don't believe in all those things but with curiosity, I went there and started hearing his conversation very carefully. Whoever interested has to give their name and birthday, on that basis he was calculating something and selecting one ring from the box. Very interesting...!! That fortune ring cost you Rs 50. I thought very pittance amount to change your fortune… If it’s really true.

Sudden question clicked in my mind and without hesitation I asked Ringwala. “Bhaiya, using this if you can change anyone's future or fortune, why can’t you use one for your own self...” That guy understood my point but he didn't want to argue because he was worried that he might loose his rest of the customers. Even I was also getting late so left the conversation in-between and start walking on my way towards office.

Just giving a thought to this whole incident, you can see that Ringwala is also trying to change his fortune by selling fortune rings to those who do not believe that "change of fortune is in our own hand, not in some ring". Ringwala also knows very well that ring can’t change your fortune and that’s why he is not wearing but just selling them.

Our small concerning world

Sometime identification of the people on the basis of their nature and for Indians emotions matter most. I think we can't deny this fact. It is quite true that we adopted e-mail and e-commerce little later but we invented e-motions far ahead than rest of the world. :)

Concerning for others contribute a bigger slice in the pie of emotions. If you further expand this "others" than it include your parents, brothers, sisters, cousins and all blood relatives. Further on it also includes our friends - for them concern is generated automatically. Also we can divide this "concern for others" mainly in two categories - selfish (covered major portion) and selfless.

I don't know how to remove selfish concern or may be haven't reach to that level to think in that direction.

Little deep thinking in selfless concerning. Definitely people don't expect the acknowledgement or return on investment (share market terminology) if they fall in this category. In this category, if the person would at least like to know that to whom the person is concerned so much is at least not discarding or avoiding that concern. Will that be count as a part of selfish concerning?

Sometime you’re in blocking state and you are not in position to proceed further than you will see around for the good thinkers and expect their answers... :)

When you have done something wrong, you will definitely have some regret when you realize that it’s a mistake. It is appropriate and taught you the new lessons from your mistakes. But when you haven't done any thing wrong and still you have regret than what do you call it?

Firstly when this question arises in your mind, you start scrutinizing that weather your perception is right or wrong. Many times, it happens that person or thing is so much important for you that you always neglect their mistakes. But when you need to show them the red eye for their mistakes, you will internally feel bad because of the feelings towards them.

Like parents do not want to get angry on child. But for the betterment of their children’s future and to keep away from the bad habits, many times they have to take this kind of stance. Actually, at that time they internally feel bad while getting angry on the children. Similarly happens with our friends and you really feel bad.

Don't lie to your manager

There are many incidents in life which stay in your memory forever. One of the incidents I am writing here took place during my onsite assignment.

We were planning our chirstmas holidays. I had decided to go for a long trip to my uncle’s house. But at the last moment the trip was cancelled out and I had no choice left and stayed in the Calgary. I did not want to convey this to my manager thinking that may be he called us on work during holidays.

On the day before our Christmas vacation, we just went to our manager’s cabin and below conversation happened.

(The texts, which is written in bracket, are the thoughts running in my mind during conversation)

D: “Hello sir, we are going on holiday from tomorrow. We are here to wish you Happy Christmas and Happy New Year.” (Also, we gave him a card)

Manager: “You too, Guys…!! So what are your plans..? Are guys going outside the city?”

D: (murmuring internally … If I say no, than he will call me to the office during holidays. After all we are contractors.) “Yeah Sir, I am going to my uncle’s house in Boston.” …. (Though my plan was cancelled out)

Manager: “So, which flight are you taking?”

D: (Why is he doing investigation? God..!! I don’t know any airlines operating for Boston. May be he is not knowing either..!!. ….Let me give him any domestic airline’s name.) “Sir, I have booked my ticket for XYZ airline. I am taking tomorrow morning’s 7:30 flight.”

Manager: “Ohhh…!!! Are you sure? I am also boarding the same flight and going to Boston. See you tomorrow at the airport.”

D: (Ohhh Man …!!! Is that airline operating for Boston? Don’t tell me..!!! What should I say now? a bit tense I am !!...... Even my colleague is also looking at me with smirking face.) “Yeah…!! Sure Sir.” (I don’t have any other option)

After coming out of his cabin, I screamed “Oh God..!! Now what should I do?!! ” My colleague, who was standing near to me, was laughing like any thing on this incident. I was also worried that after vacation if he will catch me than “what will I say?” “Why is he going to Boston in the same flight? And I am not.”

“Thank God..!!” that my manager didn’t ask when we were back to office after vacation. Great relief…!!!

Starvation for difficult problem

Solving the problems and experiencing difficult scenarios enrich you in many ways. One question here it is "if everyone is possessing similar level of intelligence than why only few people can solve the difficult problems." May be their starvation to solve difficult problems help them. While others are just sit back after solving easy problems. That freezes the intelligence and creativity. Solving difficult problems accelerate your speed on the way to greater heights. Sometimes failures occur and may plummet you in deep well but your attitude helps you to get back and reach the pinnacle of success. If you follow this path than in later stage the failure becomes innocuous to you.

Solve more difficult problem may help you in realizing intelligence if it is constant or might help you in its growth.

Digitization at (Tapari) Tea Stall

In our organization, there was a plan for digitization of learning cell courses. Those who are not aware about digitization than it’s a process of video recording of learning cell class-room sessions. So, new joiners’ can take this course online any time for their learning. I helped learning cell in digitization process by digitizing lecture on one topic. It was appreciated by the top level managers for my efforts and help to learning cell in overall ODC, although it was not so good. At that time, internally I uttered that it was a good accolade and established good impression in my immediate manager’s mind.

Here the question is “why am I telling all this?” Because below informal conversation depends on it.

After few days, I went to the tapari(roadside tea stall) for a tea very near to my office. There, I met my colleagues of previous projects – A1, A2. We had a below conversation.

D said: “How are you - A1, A2? How is your project work going on?”

A2 said: “As usual, you know that …right ..!! (He knew that I was working in same project before).

D said: “So what is at your end A1?”

A1 said: “Everything is going good. Who cares much? ..I am planning for a long vacation.”

D said: “Ohhh… Really that’s good!! I am sure that you have already informed your boss about vacation plan.” (Trying to pull his leg, as getting long leave is a problem)

A1 said: “No yaar !!… My boss is already there in Chennai. (A1 is from Chennai). He went for some digitization of learning cell “(Here digitization is same as I have explained earlier).

A2 said: “D knows about it. He had been to Chennai for digitization of one course.”

A1said: “ Ohh Great!!! Tell me one thing…This is the same process in which you have to scan your presentation slides which are on papers (hard copy). …Is that Right? …!! “

D said: “No… Man..(Just surprised .and laughing… lol …!! ) It is not the scanning of the papers. It is a video recording of the course. So, that other people can take the course online for their learning.”
(Suddenly lots of thoughts arise in my mind. By thinking logically, I am sure that he is not pulling my leg because for scanning the paper we don’t have to go all the way to Chennai. :) . Another thought is that “Which engineering degree is he holding?” “Does he know about digitization or not?” But looking at his position in organization, couldn’t dared to ask that….lol…. :) “)


On the way back to office, I was thinking that other associates might have similar thinking like “A1” than till now I was in fool’s paradise. “There is no need to be happy due to this accolade and praising.” In a moment, my all happiness vanished.
For my ease, I asked my cube mates that weather they know “what is digitization?” .. … “ahhhh …Thank GOD !!…at least they know that" :)

Keep Smiling...!!!

When an unknown person smiles at you, what makes you smile back?

It happens that sometime at workplace you have a big argument with your boss regarding work assignment etc... The similar is happened with me few days back. After this predicament, I was marching towards home with disgruntle mind which was still thinking about all those contentious argument. Suddenly I had an eye contact with someone and that person smiled. :) I forgot everything and just smiled back. Immediately, I looked at the sideways to make sure that the person smiled at me and not at someone else. Thank God…. no one was around :). Than, I tried to recall the face as if I have a good memory power. But after few attempts, I concluded that I didn’t know that person. Suddenly, something twinkles in my mind that what does that make me smile back at unknown person as I was actually in very anguish mood.

May be we always looking for cheerful and jovial moments. As soon as we saw it, we forget all our worries, miseries and start cherishing into it.

So Keep Smiling…!!!! :)

Surrounding external environment....!!!

Not directing you on natural environment, but here environment means friends, relatives, societies etc... with/where we live. Does it really make any difference that how the environment is? No idea..!! Actually speaking I never know in which way it affects us. Mostly everyone heard in childhood that keeps your friendship with good boys & girls in schools and in society. At that time, we never distinguish between what is good or bad. As a kid we just go in the environment which suits to us or the environment which adopt us.

Does the same thing applicable when we already grown-up? Generally, everyone has a feeling that it really makes a difference as people uttered frequently this proverb, "one spoiled mango spoils other mangoes in the barrel". Look at this in a different way. If the spoiled mango has no intension to spoil others, than...?

My view says that environment is just a requirement which only create lots of impressions on you. As a person it’s up to you that to allow them in your inner environment or not. Everyone has to make their inner environment very sturdy and unbreakable. Thinking if the same tendency adapted by the spoiled mango than least chances to ameliorate itself. Actually your inner environment is created by your inner voice, so it is pure and exquisite at its instantiation. Sometimes, it might be possible that a layer of dust settled due to external environment. So be in any environment, but listen to your inner voice. Little absurd but its true that sometime the Inner voice has nothing to say :-)
Anticipating your views on this... :)